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Why building your child’s self-love and acceptance is the door way to that thing called confidence

parentMany parents would love for their child to feel more confident and over the last 7 years it is the main thing that parents come to me for- how to help their child feel more confident.

What I have come to realise is that confidence is simply this- loving yourself.

Confidence is when an adult or a child feels so completely connected to who they really are; they naturally feel comfortable to show it to the world.

And this is where self-love comes into play.

The best way I feel a parent can help their child to build this self-love muscle is through doing the work themselves.

 After all children simply copy what parents demonstrate in their own lives?

Self-acceptance and self-love can literally just mean being easy on yourself; knowing that you are doing the best that you can in this given moment.

Knowing that if you knew any different or better that you would be doing it now. Knowing that many of your own limitations were just beliefs and fears passed down to you from your parents and teachers and don’t actually belong to you.

Getting in tune with yourself and loving yourself a little more can be the difference between your child cultivating this or not.

A simple top tip for beginning the self-love journey:

Place your hands on each part of your body from your head all the way down to your toes (while trying your best not to break out into the classic ‘head, shoulders, knees and toes…knees and toes…) and say out loud or in your mind “I love and accept myself”

Simple as that. I love and accept myself. I love and accept myself.

This activity can even be done with children and will really demonstrate to them what self-love is and how important it is.

Confidence IS NOT being loud and proud. Confidence is just loving yourself enough to be yourself.

Keep being uniquely you.

To your wellbeing

Love Jen xx

To learn how to increase your child’s self-love and acceptance on a deep, subconscious level go to and delve in to this simple program that will teach you the 2 min process to do at bedtime to build your child’s self-love and confidence tonight as they sleep; resolving many behaviours and symptoms such as bedwetting, fear of the dark, lack of confidence, attachment, anxiety and much more.

The Gift

The Gift - Sleeptalk for Children - Joanne Goulding

5 year old boy-Parent resolved child’s habitual cough

Case history for a 5 year old boy-Parent resolved child’s habitual cough

Child Coughing7th February 2012

I met with Mr and Mrs B in February 2012 in relation to their 5 year old son who at the time had a habitual cough.

The cough was believed to be in relation to anxiety and personal confidence and parents ruled out any allergies or medical conditions after tests and medical advice from their GP who advised it was possibly anxiety related.

B was using an inhaler for asthma and was taking vitamins.

B’s Mum spoke about B’s habitual behaviours such as chewing of clothes, smelling hands and more recently a persistent cough that teachers were noticing at school as were B’s peers. It was something that was causing anxiety and upset for parents and was very obvious at school and at home.

Mum and Dad said that B was quite irrational at times and was tearful and would rage when upset.

I spoke with parents at the end of March and B’s teacher had said that B had had a good term, the cough had decreased and that she had noticed improvements whilst in the classroom.

During the Easter holidays parents reported that the cough was minimal.

B then started back to school and the weekend prior to going back to school the cough had returned.

To note- the process was stopped over the Easter holidays as parents went away on holiday and were unable to fit the technique in with routine.

I advised that behaviour may have reverted as the process had stopped for two weeks. (This is due to the fact that it is recommended to follow the process for a minimum of 3 months to change the negative self beliefs to positive’s within the subconscious part of the brain) and with this in mind it was suggested to continue with the basic foundation words for a further two weeks until we had seen improvements in the cough again for us to then move onto the support stage where we would add specific words for B to the foundation words.

Parents had also had a consultant check up prior to their holiday abroad and B had been weaned off the inhaler that he was on and all allergies had been tested and it was shown that there were no food allergies, milk allergies and no environment allergies.

Mum was advised by Doctor that it was possibly anxiety related and that B would grow out of it.

17th April 2012

I met with B’s Mum mid April and there had been a further improvement again in the cough within the two weeks of delivering the foundation words again.

Mum reported that the cough had decreased again and commented that they had watched a program on television the week prior and couldn’t hear it as B was coughing so much through it. One week later they watched the same program with ease as B’s cough had decreased.

Other things that were reported by Mum were that B was now more receptive to going to other children’s houses to play, talking more expressively and displaying through words that he was able to rationalise more in his mind.

B was also happy to read with more confidence and was applying himself more in his studies.

The behaviour of hand smelling had stopped in the first 6 weeks and although B was still having outbursts they were more stable than they had been before.

We decided on the support words to add to the foundation words.

22nd May 2012

I spoke with B’s Mum to check progress and Mum reported that she couldn’t remember the last time that B had coughed.

It was recommended to continue with the process for a further two months.

This case history has been shared with parent’s full permission.

The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.

The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.

Are you feeling frustrated and lost for answers as you try to help them?

Relax…you are in the right place. I would love to help you resolve things before your stressful days just become “the norm” and you merely cope. You and your child deserve way more than that!

Is your child:

  • Showing signs of anxiety and lacking in confidence such as restless sleep, fussy eating, bedwetting, meltdowns, frequent tears, anger outbursts or that certain habit that they do such as putting their face down to their shoulder or making a Little Girl in Parkfunny noise?
  •   Not wanting to go to nursery, school or extra activities with other children
  • Struggling with confidence in new places?
  •  By your side every time you turn around and needing your attention even when at home?
  •  Telling you that they “don’t feel well” and you don’t know what it is despite the fact that you’ve been to your GP and they have said that there is nothing medically wrong with your child

If you were nodding and quietly saying “yes” to any of the above then I can help…

Below are five 3 minutes excerpts from the The Gift Programme – A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child

Audio 1 – (3 minute excerpt) The Philosophy behind The Gift
What the program covers and why I’m in the position to help you

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Audio 2 – (3 minute excerpt) – The Goulding process developed by Joane Goulding – The background to the programme and how it works – Why I felt the urge to pass information on to parents about the connection between the powerful mind and the body before discussing and teaching The Goulding Sleeptalk process

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Audio 3 – (3 minute excerpt) – The Goulding process – How to implement this technique for your child at home. I begin to look at the child’s current wellbeing
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Audio 4 – (3 minute excerpt) – The 5 ways that you can connect with and support your child through language and awareness – here I discuss how children don’t always have the language to tell you how they are feeling. And how to help them through use of specific language

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Audio 5 – (3 minute excerpt) – The 5 ways that you can connect with and support your child through language and awareness. Here I discuss how children don’t always have the language to tell you how they are feeling. And how to help them through use of specific language. Here I discuss relaxation tips for you and your child and why if you resolve the root cause with The Goulding Sleeptalk process included in this audio program you won’t need time out or the naughty step in the way you may be using it now or even at all!

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The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.

 

Case history for 3 children ages 2-6 years of age for fussy eating, sleep, confidence and self esteem

Mrs W came to see me in December 2012 to learn the SleepTalk process for her three sons ages 2- 6 years old.

At this time her eldest son was not feeling too great within himself and was very aggressive both verbally and physically towards her and her husband. He seemed very insecure and lack of confidence.

Her middle son had very little attention span and would hardly concentrate on anything, when trying to get him to concentrate, he would just giggle and give up straight away, and would prefer to be off playing somewhere.

The youngest son was not sleeping well and often woke through the night and was an extremely fussy eater. Mum wrote down the exact foods that he would eat at this time and explained how it was difficult to get him to try anything else or any new foods. His speech was also slightly behind for his age.

The process was applied and followed each evening apart from a few nights that were missed and the feedback within 3 weeks was the following.

Mrs W’s eldest son who had previously been very aggressive was now a lot happier within himself and less angry, he actually seemed quite happy and settled again within himself, he was communicating better, and seemed to be able to deal with his emotions without lashing out.

Mum spoke about how previously her middle son who is 4.5 years of age would giggle when she was attempting to get him to do some reading and not really show much interest in reading. Now he was not giggling and was showing more confidence in reading the book and sounding out words. It was such a refreshing change.

The youngest little boy of 2 years of age had started trying a few new foods, was only small amounts but was a start and something he would not have done 3 weeks prior. His vocabulary had also improved and was now stringing 2-3 words together, and the words were a lot clearer and precise.

Overall within the last 3 weeks the family has become a much happier unit, where they can enjoy going out without the eldest son having a tantrum and lashing out, Mrs W stated everything is not perfect yet but only time can heal, as long as my family is happy and enjoying life, then I am happy.

With Goulding SleepTalk Consultant Jenny Harrison, UK