Why baby steps are important as you make changes to your wellbeing

Feet WalkingWe are all so great at being hard on ourselves! Who does that belong to really? Is it your parents stuff or someone else’s you’ve picked up along the way?

I know we teach what we need to learn ourselves and this is oh so true for me. Let’s all be a little kinder to ourselves.

When we know that we want to make some lifestyle changes we can get so overwhelmed when we look at what needs to be done.

I know for myself when I began to cut wheat and gluten out of my diet and looked at what I had to now do in order to make replacements in my diet, it was really easy to get overwhelmed.

What I have come to realise over time is that ONE baby step of change WILL lead to other small changes and that each and every one does count.

For instance I have now made friends with my slow cooker and began to make some gorgeous meals with protein and vegetables and this makes me feel organised as well as healthy.

I also loved the creativity of dicing the different vegetables up and cooking something up literally. I was so free with it and just threw in whatever I fancied. Yum yum.

So don’t use overwhelm as a block to your new desired wellbeing.

Everywhere where you feel that you have to make all your changes now today and if you don’t then it isn’t going to lead you to where you want to go- will you bring all of that energy and belief up and let that go? Now? Yes?

Thank you J Take a deep breath and state that you let that goooooooooo.

Tune into yourself and ask right now- what is the ONE thing that I can do now to lead me towards…(insert here whatever your desire is i.e. Better health/more energy/ better skin etc etc.)

Your body knows what it needs so just be still and listen.

You may hear a subtle whisper of “Take a walk” or “Cook some soup” or “add some spices to your meal” or “be still”.

Trust that this one step is leading you towards your desire of better health and wellbeing.

Note for parents – everything that you learn for yourself will be energetically picked up by your child whether you realise or not. They see everything you do and every feeling you have. The more you can be easier on yourself and make baby steps towards improved wellbeing the more they will learn to be gentler on themselves too.

 Enjoy your baby step.

 To your wellbeing

Love

Jen xx

How to explore how your child feels in a fun way

Time for a game!

A focus on different emotions and feelings in a practical game played together or in a group

Smiley FacesEncourage your child to really act out what it feels like to feel a certain way.

What does angry look like? What does sad look like? What does happy and excited look like?

Walk around your living room or garden acting these emotions out. Say to your child, “lets’ all pretend to be angry” and then walk or skip around acting this out and then change to “now let’s all pretend to be happy” and change the emotions after about 20 seconds.

This gives your child the feeling that it’s ok to feel different feelings and that it’s safe to show how they feel.

It also allows them to get in touch with those feelings and know how they feel in their body.

You can ask: “When you act out angry/sad/happy (choose the emotion) Jacob where do you feel it in your body?”

If the answer is, “I don’t know…”

You can ask: “OK that’s fine. If you did know where do you feel it might be?”

This gives a child the safe place to express through imagination. It is most likely that this ‘imagination’ is actually their awareness and knowing but it just makes your child feel safer to express this.

Let your child know how the game is going to work from the beginning. Children are more likely to comply and follow a game if they know what is coming. Explain that for 20 seconds you are going to all act this feeling and then you will be changing to another one.

Ask your child if they can think of an emotion that they would like to act out too. This can also give you some insight into how they may be feeling in a safe, non-intrusive space.

Always remember to finish on a positive feeling so that you are leaving you and your child in a happy, relaxed state of mind and feeling. Ensure that the last 2-3 emotions that are acted out are ‘happy’ or ‘relaxed’ for instance.

Enjoy!

Do you know who you are?

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What makes you YOU?

I have been asking myself this a lot recently since beginning writing my book ‘Being You’

I remember at school doing school plays, playing netball because it got me out of maths and away from the very stressed out teacher and wanting to enjoy lessons like sports because my friends did and I wanted to be like them.

But I remember feeling like there was something wrong with me because I never really truly enjoyed these things.

I was a slow runner, wasn’t great at catching the ball and hitting it in rounders and felt nervous getting up on stage doing a play I really didn’t want to be a part of.

It’s almost as if no one ever asked me : ‘ what do you feel like doing Jen?’ Or ‘what will make you feel happy?

I never really knew because I was never asked. And so I grew up not really knowing what made me feel

  • Alive
  • Relaxed
  • Content
  • Free
  • Connected
  • Love

Which I discovered last year are some of my desired feelings.

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My question is – why wait until you’re 31?

I get told I’m quite young to be aware of my self so deeply so my second question is why does it take some until they are 40, 50 or even 60 years of ago to discover who they are and what makes them feel happy?

I would love to see more children benefiting from this wisdom. But we can’t give what we were never given ourselves can we.

So my question to you reading this today is- ‘ how do you know when you’re being you? What does it feel like? And how can you bring more of that into today?’

Children follow us as their leaders so the more we know ourselves the more they can learn from us as adults that’s it’s Ok to have a CHOICE about who you are and what makes you happy and you.

Have a think about just 3 times when you have felt truly YOU.

You will know when you were being YOU because you most probably felt confident in yourself, comfortable in your skin, alive and happy.

What does it feel like to be YOU?

Keep choosing you

The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.

The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.

Are you feeling frustrated and lost for answers as you try to help them?

Relax…you are in the right place. I would love to help you resolve things before your stressful days just become “the norm” and you merely cope. You and your child deserve way more than that!

Is your child:

  • Showing signs of anxiety and lacking in confidence such as restless sleep, fussy eating, bedwetting, meltdowns, frequent tears, anger outbursts or that certain habit that they do such as putting their face down to their shoulder or making a Little Girl in Parkfunny noise?
  •   Not wanting to go to nursery, school or extra activities with other children
  • Struggling with confidence in new places?
  •  By your side every time you turn around and needing your attention even when at home?
  •  Telling you that they “don’t feel well” and you don’t know what it is despite the fact that you’ve been to your GP and they have said that there is nothing medically wrong with your child

If you were nodding and quietly saying “yes” to any of the above then I can help…

Below are five 3 minutes excerpts from the The Gift Programme – A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child

Audio 1 – (3 minute excerpt) The Philosophy behind The Gift
What the program covers and why I’m in the position to help you

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Audio 2 – (3 minute excerpt) – The Goulding process developed by Joane Goulding – The background to the programme and how it works – Why I felt the urge to pass information on to parents about the connection between the powerful mind and the body before discussing and teaching The Goulding Sleeptalk process

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Audio 3 – (3 minute excerpt) – The Goulding process – How to implement this technique for your child at home. I begin to look at the child’s current wellbeing
with you on this audio sample

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Audio 4 – (3 minute excerpt) – The 5 ways that you can connect with and support your child through language and awareness – here I discuss how children don’t always have the language to tell you how they are feeling. And how to help them through use of specific language

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Audio 5 – (3 minute excerpt) – The 5 ways that you can connect with and support your child through language and awareness. Here I discuss how children don’t always have the language to tell you how they are feeling. And how to help them through use of specific language. Here I discuss relaxation tips for you and your child and why if you resolve the root cause with The Goulding Sleeptalk process included in this audio program you won’t need time out or the naughty step in the way you may be using it now or even at all!

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if you are interested in this Programme then visit the page on my Website dedicated to this Programme

The Gift- A Toolkit of confidence and calm for your child.